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Thank you so much for all your amazing questions! I will be honest in saying that I was a bit nervous to do my first Ask Me Anything solely for paid subscribers as I didn't know if I would get enough questions or whether I don't have enough paid subscribers but this has just shown me that it always pays off to listen to your intuition and I hope to add more and more to the paid subscription as it grows! :) M xx

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Do you have any advice for accepting chronic illness as just a part of your life? Fatigue is really limiting and I’m finding it hard to not be angry. Spent the first 3 years after diagnosis fighting for treatment and now I’m at the point where I just want to find balance but don’t know where to start. (Therapy would be ideal but I can’t afford it)

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Apr 28, 2023Liked by Michelle Elman

My work keeps me traveling all the time so meeting new people is near-impossible but I would love a solid group of friends outside of work. (Work in touring theatre so you're with people 24/7 and they become family but they're quick intense relationships that usually fade quickly once you move to the next show). Any tips for making friends as an adult when you can't join a club?

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Apr 28, 2023Liked by Michelle Elman

What are your tips for ditching a bad habit?

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Apr 28, 2023Liked by Michelle Elman

I’m slowly making progress towards setting boundaries with my family. One point I keep on getting stuck in, is where relatives ask for personal information that I’m unwilling to share. My default response has been ‘it’s not your business’/‘it concerns me, not you’, which has prompted family to describe me as unkind/ungrateful.

How do I make them understand I’m not saying any of this to be bratty, but instead it is a belief that means a lot to me?

And if I can’t make them understand this, how do I move on from feeling the need to do so? Thanks a lot!

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Apr 28, 2023Liked by Michelle Elman

I've always wanted to write a novel but I can't get rid of limiting belief that I don't have any unique ideas to write about and my novel would not be award-worthy. How do I stop getting in my own way?

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Apr 30, 2023Liked by Michelle Elman

Balance after boundary setting! Tips for when setting a boundary means the relationship won’t get closer, but you still want them (or it’s not feasible to eliminate them) from your life. How to hold that boundary, whilst navigating other parts of the relationship.

(For my personal context):Finally set boundaries with mom about not being able to connect/be closer (mom wants deep conversations & to heal our relationship. However, when we have tried in the past, she gaslights, gets defensive, and makes everything about her. Unfortunately, she’s just not capable of the self reflection and communication needed to move forward.

My final boundary was telling her that I’m not willing to have these conversations anymore unless she gives Therapy a try. She told me she would never try it. She constantly tries to connect with me in other ways, and I am just not interested. However, it’s still my mom, I still love her, and it’s not feasible to cut her completely out of my life.

Boundaries with family after lots of childhood trauma is TOUGH.

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Apr 29, 2023Liked by Michelle Elman

Do you have any tips for building personal resilience? I find that some things can take me a while to bounce back from and I’d like to be able to move on quicker.

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Apr 28, 2023Liked by Michelle Elman

What is your advice for early stages of dating, when the other person declared that they hope for a relationship with you but they actions show that they are not very invested in your relation?

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