One of the best ways I have found to find friends is actually social media. I follow the principle of 'people rarely say hi but they'll often say hi back' and most of my friendships began in adulthood post-university with a DM asking if they would like to go for coffee. I also find that if you do go to events or parties, make an effort t…
One of the best ways I have found to find friends is actually social media. I follow the principle of 'people rarely say hi but they'll often say hi back' and most of my friendships began in adulthood post-university with a DM asking if they would like to go for coffee. I also find that if you do go to events or parties, make an effort to talk to new people and different people and if you are getting on to actually follow up with contact details and ask for their number or instagram. It's those vulnerable moments that really add up. I found a new friend this year who we crossed paths many times but never actually went for a meal and then he asked me if I wanted to have lunch and it felt like the leap between just acquaintances to actually friends. I would also say that since you are travelling, do not underestimate the power of FaceTime for staying in touch. A friend and I had plans last night but we were both so tired so we decided instead to both stay in our own homes, avoid the journey and just FaceTime. It ended up lasting four hours so it was as if we spent the evening together anyway! Other ways I have made friendships in adulthood is actually asking my friends if they could introduce me to their friends. I did this when I was in Hong Kong and knew no one. I had one friend who lived in Australia and we would only cross paths in Hong Kong for one day so I asked if she could introduce me to anyone on that one day so I had company for the month I was there and those friends ended up moving to London a decade later! Hope that helps :) xx
One of the best ways I have found to find friends is actually social media. I follow the principle of 'people rarely say hi but they'll often say hi back' and most of my friendships began in adulthood post-university with a DM asking if they would like to go for coffee. I also find that if you do go to events or parties, make an effort to talk to new people and different people and if you are getting on to actually follow up with contact details and ask for their number or instagram. It's those vulnerable moments that really add up. I found a new friend this year who we crossed paths many times but never actually went for a meal and then he asked me if I wanted to have lunch and it felt like the leap between just acquaintances to actually friends. I would also say that since you are travelling, do not underestimate the power of FaceTime for staying in touch. A friend and I had plans last night but we were both so tired so we decided instead to both stay in our own homes, avoid the journey and just FaceTime. It ended up lasting four hours so it was as if we spent the evening together anyway! Other ways I have made friendships in adulthood is actually asking my friends if they could introduce me to their friends. I did this when I was in Hong Kong and knew no one. I had one friend who lived in Australia and we would only cross paths in Hong Kong for one day so I asked if she could introduce me to anyone on that one day so I had company for the month I was there and those friends ended up moving to London a decade later! Hope that helps :) xx