It’s that time of the month again. I’ll be doing an Ask Me Anything on TUESDAY 3rd October and will be answering them live from 11 am-12 pm UK time. Ask me anything from life coaching, and advice to even silly and weird questions!
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Thank you all so much for the wonderful questions - I loved the diversity in the questions too! This is honestly one of my favourite features mainly cause I love that a lot of the same people show up so it’s like a small community forming 🥰
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I've met a new guy recently and we hit it off instantly. Great chemistry. At first he was giving me a lot of affection and attention. Then he started having less time for me. He said it was because of the new job he got and it was stressing him out to the point that he wanted to be left alone. After reading The Selfish Romantic, I know that we are still basically strangers and I have to earn higher rank in his priorities. I wasn't chasing after him, gave him space. I even communicated that if it isn't a good time for as dating, I will understand and can let him off the hook. But then he said he's very much into me and want to keep to get knowing him. How can I built relation with him if we don't have much time for each other (mostly on his part)? I don't mind taking thing slow but if our communication is a handful of texts a day and dates very far in between can we built something real?
Hi! My question is about trust when dating, some people talk about how trust is earned, but don’t say how and others say to give it freely and then remove it when it’s broken. Do you have any tips/advice for building trust?
Hey Michelle :)
I feel a little weighed down by the world lately and was wondering how you manage being well informed and engaged in politics/advocacy, while not getting depressed?
The backlash to the Russell Brand documentary and the misogyny everywhere, Chris Packham’s recent documentary on the world burning, Elianne Andam the teenage girl is the most recent to loose her life to violence in the street... it feels like it never gets better! I used to write through my feelings a lot but I almost feel too overwhelmed with the negativity to get anything down on paper. So, I suppose my follow up question which is a bit more specific would be, as a writer how do you keep direction and purpose and avoid feeling so overwhelmed (with negativity, research, your own thoughts) you freeze?
Hi Michelle. I have a student loan I’m paying off and I recently decided to start paying off more so I’m done much quicker. This means cutting a lot of my spending. I still want to go on dates without it costing me money. Do you have ideas about the kinds of dates I could be going on? (Activities) And should be open about my debt to the person I’m dating?
Hi Michelle! My question is, as a life coach, is there an ethical standard that you don’t work with friends or have personal relationships with clients like there is with traditional therapy? Is that different after you stop working with somebody? I’m curious because I often wish I could be friends with my therapist but I also know that our relationship is one sided and that there’s probably transference there because I don’t know him personally.
I’ve recently been having a lot of trouble with my supervisor. She is a super micro manager and is over working the entire team I work with. To give you some context, this supervisor has been in this position previously, was moved to another position for about 2 years, and then came back to this current position.
That being said, it’s not a new position to her, but things have changed a bit since she was last here. Our previous supervisor did a great job of filtering workflow and communicating with the team.
Now, this supervisor has come back and has not given any expectations and demands we keep up with the extra work she throws on us. She is not a good communicator, and seems to be an “iron fist” ruler without consideration.
When we have had work evaluations and case reviews, she gives feedback in a way that is quite condescending and critical, while never giving kudos or positive feedback. When I have felt her expectations are unreasonable, I have professionally stood my ground and explained why a task simply could not be done in her time frame. She doesn’t seem to care or consider it. She merely states that unless I figure it out, my workload will continue to grow.
In addition to work load, when any coworkers ask for time off, she gives a hard time (yet takes whatever time she wants) and then never gives an answer as to wether we can actually have the day or not. This leads to a lot of confusion and frustration.
I am so desperately trying to maintain proper work boundaries, but being seen as a slack or poor at my job is certainly a trigger point for me. I’m struggling to manage those boundaries while also keeping my professionalism.
Sorry this question is long winded and late.
Thank you so much. ♥️