Are you me? I’ve recently moved to the middle of nowhere, this beautiful little village in Somerset with my dog. My favourite parts of the day are when I make myself a fancy coffee and sit in silence and watch whatever is happening in the garden. Only 3 years ago, I sacrificed space and quality to live in the city and I couldn’t be furth…
Are you me? I’ve recently moved to the middle of nowhere, this beautiful little village in Somerset with my dog. My favourite parts of the day are when I make myself a fancy coffee and sit in silence and watch whatever is happening in the garden. Only 3 years ago, I sacrificed space and quality to live in the city and I couldn’t be further away from that version of myself.
I’m still detangling it all but I feel like I’m in a recovery phase. I’m definitely isolating myself more than is probably good for me long term, but part of this move was about finding community. I’m letting go of party friends in favour of the man at the hardware store who already knows my name and the postman who dropped chocolate off for me when I was unwell. I know it will take a while to build up my community here so I could feel lonely, potentially, but it feels more aligned with who I am now already. And I have faith that if I embrace that alignment (even when it feels boring) that the right things will come into my life.
I think it takes patience and observation, rather than the action and ‘yolo’ mentality of most peoples 20’s. But I’m still excited to see where I’ll end up in another 5 years because who the hell knows!
Thanks for writing this piece - it feels really special to feel so seen and relate to someone like this x
It's so reassuring to know I'm not alone! What you wrote about exchanging party friends for the man at the hardware store is beautiful and I do think loneliness is just the phase that happens before new people enter! I totally agree - we live in a culture where you always have to do something if there is a problem, or even if there is just an uneasiness and sometimes, time will reveal everything!
Are you me? I’ve recently moved to the middle of nowhere, this beautiful little village in Somerset with my dog. My favourite parts of the day are when I make myself a fancy coffee and sit in silence and watch whatever is happening in the garden. Only 3 years ago, I sacrificed space and quality to live in the city and I couldn’t be further away from that version of myself.
I’m still detangling it all but I feel like I’m in a recovery phase. I’m definitely isolating myself more than is probably good for me long term, but part of this move was about finding community. I’m letting go of party friends in favour of the man at the hardware store who already knows my name and the postman who dropped chocolate off for me when I was unwell. I know it will take a while to build up my community here so I could feel lonely, potentially, but it feels more aligned with who I am now already. And I have faith that if I embrace that alignment (even when it feels boring) that the right things will come into my life.
I think it takes patience and observation, rather than the action and ‘yolo’ mentality of most peoples 20’s. But I’m still excited to see where I’ll end up in another 5 years because who the hell knows!
Thanks for writing this piece - it feels really special to feel so seen and relate to someone like this x
It's so reassuring to know I'm not alone! What you wrote about exchanging party friends for the man at the hardware store is beautiful and I do think loneliness is just the phase that happens before new people enter! I totally agree - we live in a culture where you always have to do something if there is a problem, or even if there is just an uneasiness and sometimes, time will reveal everything!