The other day I got told that there will always be one fight that a couple will return to that never seems to have a resolution. They went on to say that they fall into categories of power or control and some other ones I can’t remember but I’m not sure I believe that. Is there an argument that you keep repeating? Have you found a resolution around it?
Our current constant argument is around all things adulting! It seems to shift for us, when we first moved in, it was around all things household and I found it hard as I lived alone for so long!
Id say over the past year our most common argument is about what last name we will take in marriage. I use my last name more (as a teacher!) but he sees it more traditionally than I do...
My reoccurring theme is more connection. I get frustrated when he wants to spend all day in front of the telly and I want to do something. I’ve solved this by realising I don’t need to rely on only him to meet my need of connection. Instead I reach out to friends and go out for a meal with them.
The relationship ended but mine was about time and feeling like a priority. Looking back it’s helped me to realise that if I have an expectation of how I want to be treated and if after discussing it, its not resolved or keeps happening I will wish them the best and move on. I don’t believe they were a bad person or anything but we definitely weren’t on the same page.
The guy I'm seeing is an introvert and once in a while he needs some time for himself. During that time I don't hear from him for a couple of days. He explained that this doesn't mean that he doesn't care about me. That taking care of his mental well-being helps him be the best version of himself when he's with me. And he's caring and attentive when we're together or even over texts. But I can't overcome feeling kind of rejected when he takes time to be alone. Rationally I know he's not doing anything wrong or aiming to hurt me. But subconsciouslly I kinda feel like I'm not enough. How do I get out of my own head so it doesn't sabotage this relation?
Our current constant argument is around all things adulting! It seems to shift for us, when we first moved in, it was around all things household and I found it hard as I lived alone for so long!
Booo adulting is the worst, I wish you both all the best working through it 😄 xx
Id say over the past year our most common argument is about what last name we will take in marriage. I use my last name more (as a teacher!) but he sees it more traditionally than I do...
I've always thought that I will change my name personally but keep it my maiden name professionally. How would that work as a compromise?
We had constant arguments about tidiness/ cleanliness. Had. We broke up because we couldn't resolve this amongst other issues. 😅
This is why moving in together is such a shock!
My reoccurring theme is more connection. I get frustrated when he wants to spend all day in front of the telly and I want to do something. I’ve solved this by realising I don’t need to rely on only him to meet my need of connection. Instead I reach out to friends and go out for a meal with them.
That's such a great way to meet your needs!
The relationship ended but mine was about time and feeling like a priority. Looking back it’s helped me to realise that if I have an expectation of how I want to be treated and if after discussing it, its not resolved or keeps happening I will wish them the best and move on. I don’t believe they were a bad person or anything but we definitely weren’t on the same page.
I also need to feel like a priority and accept that not everyone needs it but know that I do!
The guy I'm seeing is an introvert and once in a while he needs some time for himself. During that time I don't hear from him for a couple of days. He explained that this doesn't mean that he doesn't care about me. That taking care of his mental well-being helps him be the best version of himself when he's with me. And he's caring and attentive when we're together or even over texts. But I can't overcome feeling kind of rejected when he takes time to be alone. Rationally I know he's not doing anything wrong or aiming to hurt me. But subconsciouslly I kinda feel like I'm not enough. How do I get out of my own head so it doesn't sabotage this relation?