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Thank you so much for all the questions! This is the first AMA which I have kept for just paid subscribers and I would love to keep this as a perk for you lot. Free subscribers will be able to read the answers though! :) xxx

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Any top tips on how to make the most of a holiday with friends, particularly considering how much we’ve all changed in the last 5 years. I have a chronic illness, one is a mum with a 1 year old in tow, another is bringing their partner, and it’s looking quite different from the party trips we had 5 years ago! I’m fairly good at doing my own thing and setting the boundaries I need to, but I know the others find it hard to do sometimes and I want to make sure they have the holiday they want as much as I will!

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Jul 1, 2023Liked by Michelle Elman

My husband has recently been very focused on going to the gym and trying to lose weight. He doesn’t seem to have a complicated relationship with it like myself (I had disordered eating for most of my life). Him being so focused on what he eats and going to the gym to change his body has been very triggering for me. I know that my triggers are my own responsibility, but it has created a lot of noise in my brain. For example, I am suddenly very concerned that if I don’t follow suit, he will begin to find me unattractive (probably because I could see myself being judgmental like this). It is truly bringing out my insecurities and it really tempts me to reengage in those old behaviors.

Please help me set boundaries with myself. What he wants to do with his body is his business and I know this is something that I have to work through.

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Jul 1, 2023Liked by Michelle Elman

Oh hello, my question is about handling boundaries with a jealous mom. I have quite a strained relationship with my mother. I’ve recently had to set some serious boundaries and as a final request, I asked if she would give therapy or counseling a try to help us mend our relationship (I’ve been in therapy myself for a few years). She has continually refused, and wants me to work on the relationship her way.

That being said, I am much closer to my dad and aunts. My mother is very jealous of this. She will take her jealousy out on my father or try to make me feel guilty when I spend time alone with other family members (and not with her).

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Jul 1, 2023Liked by Michelle Elman

How do deal with emotions of dating apps and not getting matched with people that you may like or want to match with?

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Jun 30, 2023Liked by Michelle Elman

Looking forward to it! ❤️ Is that UK time?

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