I’m trying to have more confidence in my own beliefs and opinions, but I’m not sure how to go about doing this. I find that a lot of the time I look at my decisions, especially big life decisions, through lens of what I believe others would think about it. I want to trust my own opinion more, so any advice on how to do this is much appreciated!
I’m trying to have more confidence in my own beliefs and opinions, but I’m not sure how to go about doing this. I find that a lot of the time I look at my decisions, especially big life decisions, through lens of what I believe others would think about it. I want to trust my own opinion more, so any advice on how to do this is much appreciated!
The first place to start is to actually start connecting and associating into your body so you know how YOU feel about a decision. The way to do this is to think back to a time you knew you were making a wrong decision and you did it anyway. Go back to that moment and notice how you felt in your body, was there a tightness somewhere in your body, maybe a heat or pressure? Where in your body did you feel it? Repeat the process again but now with a good decision you made and you knew it was a good decision at the time. Now you know the difference between what a good decision and a bad decision feels like and before you decide anything, check in with your body, do a scan from your head to your toes and notice how you are feeling about it. The reason why what you want is more important than their opinion is because you are the person with the most information and you are also the person most affected by the decision and therefore you are the one most invested in making the right decision. Other people's opinions will only be on a segment of the information you have and therefore they are not fully informed. In order to start trusting your own opinion more, you need to question why you believe others know more or better than you because they likely don't. And then ultimatley what it comes down to, is if you are about to make a decision, and you know others disagree, you make that decision anyway! You can use it to fuel yourself by thinking of it as proving them wrong, or you can accept some decisions you make WILL be wrong but you are allowed to make your own mistakes and sometimes you need to learn mistakes yourself.
I’m trying to have more confidence in my own beliefs and opinions, but I’m not sure how to go about doing this. I find that a lot of the time I look at my decisions, especially big life decisions, through lens of what I believe others would think about it. I want to trust my own opinion more, so any advice on how to do this is much appreciated!
The first place to start is to actually start connecting and associating into your body so you know how YOU feel about a decision. The way to do this is to think back to a time you knew you were making a wrong decision and you did it anyway. Go back to that moment and notice how you felt in your body, was there a tightness somewhere in your body, maybe a heat or pressure? Where in your body did you feel it? Repeat the process again but now with a good decision you made and you knew it was a good decision at the time. Now you know the difference between what a good decision and a bad decision feels like and before you decide anything, check in with your body, do a scan from your head to your toes and notice how you are feeling about it. The reason why what you want is more important than their opinion is because you are the person with the most information and you are also the person most affected by the decision and therefore you are the one most invested in making the right decision. Other people's opinions will only be on a segment of the information you have and therefore they are not fully informed. In order to start trusting your own opinion more, you need to question why you believe others know more or better than you because they likely don't. And then ultimatley what it comes down to, is if you are about to make a decision, and you know others disagree, you make that decision anyway! You can use it to fuel yourself by thinking of it as proving them wrong, or you can accept some decisions you make WILL be wrong but you are allowed to make your own mistakes and sometimes you need to learn mistakes yourself.