Dear Michelle: Should I Wait For Him To Be Ready For Commitment?
Should I keep dating him if he isn't where I am and if I do, how do I not get too attached to someone who might not stick around?
I’ve just started dating again for the first time since becoming single. I’ve done a lot of self-work and am excited to make meaningful new connections. While I’m not in a rush to get into a relationship, I want something more than just hooking up.
I’ve been on three fun dates with a great guy. He’s proactive in planning and communicates well between dates. On date three, I learned our last relationships ended around about the same time. However, I'm further along in the healing process than he is. He acknowledged he has a lot of work to do and can’t commit to much right now. However, he’s really enjoying our dates and would like to continue seeing me.
Because I enjoy his company, I suggested we proceed slowly, but have been questioning myself since. I’m not attached to him right now, but I don’t want to fall into the trap of waiting around for him to feel something that he might never have. Then again, should I really stop seeing him just because he’s where I was a few months ago?
Do you think I should keep dating him, and if so, what can I do to make sure I don’t get ahead of myself?
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